Monday, January 17, 2011
Sips and the Single Girl: Where's the Beef?
I have been thinking about writing this post for quite some time, mostly because this question has continued to plague me as I attend more and more wine tasting and social events here in Seattle and the surrounding area. When it comes to wine events, where are all the guys? Sure, there are plenty of men at these events, but the 20 to 30-something variety of these men only seem to attend at the request of their other (female) halves and are seen perusing the tastes of the event in tow of someone else. The events clearly lack single men. What gives?
Let’s examine this more closely:
I consider wine to be a high-class beverage of choice (for the most part), with a mostly educated and high-class individual on the quest to learn about and enjoy all that the amazing vine has to offer. Men are constantly complaining about how you just can’t meet the right woman in the “bar scene”. Sure, encounters in said “bar scene” do occur and don’t get me wrong, I do have some friends that have met their significant others in a bar. But for me, and most others that I know, it’s just not the ideal environment for finding Mr. Right. Gentlemen, take note: are you looking for the classy, well-educated, and ambitious woman? Then why aren’t you attending wine tasting events? These events are FULL of attractive, smart, high-heeled 20 and 30-somethings who choose to make wine their drink of choice not just because it “tastes good”, but because they truly desire to learn about and appreciate different varietals, vintages and winemakers. The immediate response I might get to this statement is that these types of events are intimidating to the single guy who might not know a whole lot about wine. Ok, I’ll give you that, BUT: you don’t have to have a subscription to Wine Spectator and be on a waiting list to receive your Leonetti allocation in 2016 to strike up an interesting conversation with someone at a wine tasting event. While there are many at these events that do in fact have a very high understanding of wine and could likely pick a Cab/Syrah blend out of a line-up in a blind tasting, that doesn’t mean you aren’t worthy to chat with them. So, I present to you, some tips and tricks for the single gentleman in attendance at a wine event (who might also be looking to find a lovely single lady):
1. While these are classy affairs, they are NOT black tie. Don’t feel intimidated by a wine event by thinking you have to be dressed to the nines to get in the door. Not the case. Think about what you might wear on a first date to a nice restaurant. For the super ambitious: suit up! We (and by we I mean myself and my female counterparts) do love a man in a nice suit.
2. This is a wine tasting event, not a wine drinking event. The reason the wineries give small pours is so that you can taste a wide variety and discover what you do and do not like in certain types of wine. Don’t be afraid to sip and dump in one of the many dump buckets provided at these events. You’ll have more to chat about with someone if you have tried a wide selection of the wines present.
3. Do some research in advance. Most of the larger events all list out the different wineries that will be pouring at the event on the event website. Scroll through the list and pick a few you would like to try, even if you’ve never even heard of them. This will help when you do converse with someone (see #4), as you can mention those wineries as ones you “have been meaning to check out”.
4. Generally, when people taste, they may linger at the table in between pours to chat with the winemaker or learn a bit more about what they’re tasting. This is a GREAT opportunity to casually ask the classy, attractive, single (check on this, make sure a boyfriend does not linger nearby) female standing next to you at the table her opinion on what you are both tasting. In this situation, you don’t have to have extensive knowledge of the wine, you are just chatting about your opinions of the wine. If it appears that this classy female has a bit more knowledge of the wine than you do, (i.e. she answers with something like “nice fruit on the nose but the tannins in this hit the palate hard”) don’t be afraid! An appropriate response would be something along the lines of “Interesting. What do you think causes that?” When in doubt, just answer with a question. You’ll get by JUST fine. Most people (myself included), love when people are genuinely interested in their opinions on the wine. Just nod and smile. You may have more in common than you think! The other scenario is that the female in question doesn’t in fact have 60 bottles of wine at home and is in the early learning stages, just as you are. This will produce a great conversation where you can continue to taste together and offer each other additional opinions. In between sips of Malbec and Cabernet, the other “we just met” conversation can take place and VOILA! The magic happens…
I’m not trying to turn wine tasting events into single’s socials. What I am trying to do is offer an obvious way for singles to interact over something that they enjoy: wine. As mentioned previously, the nature of the women at these events are top-notch. These are college educated, professional and classy women who are passionate about their work and their wine enriched social lives. Take a chance at an upcoming event; you may just be surprised at what happens…
Some fantastic wine events occurring within the next few months include:
The Seattle Food & Wine Experience – February 27th, 2011 – 1pm to 5pm – Seattle Center Exhibition Hall – Seattle, WA
Taste Washington – Seminars: March 26th, 2011 – Bell Harbor Conference Center; Grand Tasting: March 27th, 2011 – Qwest Field Event Center – Seattle, WA